Category Archives: Relationships

The Pain Of Being In Love With Someone You Can Never Be With

LoveLove is a tricky thing. It varies in intensity and in the specificity of emotions. It is sometimes the most beautiful thing in the world and, at other times, it’s the most horrid thing we’ve ever come face-to-face with.

It’s odd how one thing could be the cause of so many contrary feelings. But that’s what makes love so beautiful – it’s the closest thing to perfection that exists in the world, the only thing that can easily and comfortably encompass both good and evil, beautiful and ugly.

It’s the closest thing to a flawless whole that man has ever claimed to have been part of.

When we think of love, we think of the happy kind of love, the kind that is the beginning of something beautiful – something that breathes life.

There is, however, another kind of love, a much darker and sadder kind of love. It’s the love one feels when one loves someone he or she can never and will never have.

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A Unified Theory of Happiness

skyThese days, mindfulness — defined by neuroscientist of Harvard University Britta Hölzel as “the non-judgmental awareness of experiences in the present moment” – attracts many people interested in psychological health and happiness. Since Paul McCartney encouraged us to “Let it be”  when our hearts are broken, we know about the importance of acceptance. And surely nobody can escape the “Let it go” songs and books of today’s culture. I think we have pretty much gotten the message: resistance to reality is futile and letting things pass through us is the best we can do for our happiness.However, knowing about something is not the same as being able to do it. Mindfulness is difficult. And as inspiring as it may be to hear from people who can go with the flow and stay emotionally positive no matter what, it can also exert pressure on those who struggle. “Let it go” may sound like “Let it go already!” which is a not-so helpful message of impatience in a stressed-out society. In fact, the pace has picked up so much since Paul McCartney sang that song, we are not going through life anymore; we are running. And so do our minds, a thousand miles a minute. It seems as if our minds are too full to be mindful.

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6 Times Never to Be Friends With Your Ex

It’s one of the biggest clichés of all time: “I want us to still be friends.”

Ex-BoyfriendFrom statements of celebrity splits to impromptu break-up texts, to speeches in front of middle-school lockers, there is a notion in our culture that breakups should be sweet and amicable. It’s often assumed that the best way to end a romantic relationship is to magically embark on a close, happy, friendship — where everyone is thrilled, and both parties smilingly tease each other about his video-game habits or her fondness for vintage brooches.

But does this fantasy ever work out, and is it even wise to try for it? Can you really be friends with someone you dated — even if he knows you better than anyone else? Do any great — or even average — romances ever end by segueing into a strong friendship?

The answer, many times, is no. Sometimes, of course, it can happen — with time. But certain conditions must be met. Here are six signs that should tell you that “Let’s just be friends” may not be your best option (as discussed in detail in The Friendship Fix):

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Why we think we need more sex

couple-and-sexDOES more sex make for a happier relationship? Here we look at whether quality triumphs quantity.

The chances are that if you’re having sex regularly, you’ll be pretty pleased with your relationship. If you’re getting more nooky than the people around you – or you think you are – you’ll be even happier. A new study has found we don’t just want to keep up with the Joneses and have a bigger house, a faster car, or a better body. We want to be more successful in the bedroom, too.

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REJECTION. We’ve all been there. And it hurts like hell.

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The surprising way to deal with rejection: how our brains help mend a broken heart

So what are you to do if you’ve been snubbed by a friend? Given the cold shoulder by a colleague? Or worse, find yourself on the sad side of an unrequited love affair?

It turns out help is much closer than you think.

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Sex myths busted

sex mythIt’s true that in the complicated and convoluted world of sex, myths will always abound. But a slew of research has disproved some beliefs, mostly based on long-held, gender-based stereotypes. It seems, contrary to what pop psychology books and magazine covers would have you believe, women are not from Venus, nor are men from Mars. Herein we dispel these and other commonly held sex myths.

1. Men are more interested in casual sex than women

FALSE: Despite what sitcoms since the 1970s would have us believe, men are not all out to spread their seed on endless one-night stands. Professor Terri Conley from the University of Michigan recently reviewed an oft-cited 1989 study which supported the theory that men are more interested in casual sex. In that study researchers trained young men and women to proposition strangers for sex.

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Love & lust: it’s a chemical romance

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Centuries after William Shakespeare asked, ‘What is love?’, brain imaging studies are allowing scientists to give at least a partial answer. New studies show love is in the mind – a complex emotion triggered by 12 specific areas of the brain. These areas form the network of love, write Todd Lindeman and Alberto Cuadra.

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10 Reasons to Leave a Relationship

How To Know When It’s Time To Go

You can always find reasons to leave a relationship if you look hard enough. But it’s the obvious reasons—those that might be right in front of you—that should help you make your decision.

1.  Abuse. If you are being abused physically, emotionally, verbally, or financially, get a lawyer and get out. The only time an abuser gets it is when there’s a serious consequence.

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Women’s “Not So Secret” Dictionary

This post is actually more for the men. If you are having trouble understanding your lady. This dictionary might help you. I had a good laugh reading this. 😀

Nine Words Women Use

1. Fine:  This is the word women use to end an argument when they are right and you need to shut up.

2. Five Minutes:  If she is getting dressed, this means a half an hour. Five minutes is only five minutes if you have just been given five more minutes to watch the football before helping around the house.

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What do men really want in a partner?

Men as they say are simple species, as long as the basic (primal) needs are met, all is well.  But are they as simple as they sound in looking for a possible mate? Sometimes questions are raised, what do men really want in finding their love interest? As we all know, different folks with different strokes, but let us squeezed the most “liked “qualities of a woman that are usually or majority of guys would agreed upon.

Let’s here it from the real men!

 

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