People often say that the party ends when you turn 40, especially for the women hitting their menopause at this stage of life. 40 is a number that is usually regarded as a downhill drive for women, in truth, it is not as awful as it is portrayed.
Undoubtedly, menopause is a transition phase in any woman’s life and it surely brings along certain discomforts, such as mood swings, hot flashes and weight gain. But your 40’s are not only about this, there are far more exciting facts this golden year carries within.
1. You’ve become decisive
Living years under the burden of uncertainties and indecisiveness, the time has finally come when you actually know what you want. At this age you develop the courage to step out of the zone where everyone tells you what you should do with your life.
As a woman we all have experienced this within our families, friends, colleagues and spouses, showing us the directions to take in our lives, which is quite suffocating as an individual. It took you forty years to learn that this is your life and you have the right to spend it as you want to. So you simply cherish these smooth sailing years with a clear head and a certain sense of control over your life.
Love is a tricky thing. It varies in intensity and in the specificity of emotions. It is sometimes the most beautiful thing in the world and, at other times, it’s the most horrid thing we’ve ever come face-to-face with.
It’s odd how one thing could be the cause of so many contrary feelings. But that’s what makes love so beautiful – it’s the closest thing to perfection that exists in the world, the only thing that can easily and comfortably encompass both good and evil, beautiful and ugly.
It’s the closest thing to a flawless whole that man has ever claimed to have been part of.
When we think of love, we think of the happy kind of love, the kind that is the beginning of something beautiful – something that breathes life.
There is, however, another kind of love, a much darker and sadder kind of love. It’s the love one feels when one loves someone he or she can never and will never have.
We notice them. We admire, we imagine, we long. Sometimes women reveal very little, and we muse on what we can’t see. Other times women invite us in, and we can’t believe how lucky we are.
Heed this knowledge, and you will learn, in a very respectful and honest way, what every man craves: more access to breasts.
In a study conducted at the University of Vienna, researchers found that large breasts were about 24 per cent less sensitive than small ones. “This is probably because the nerve that transmits sensation from the nipple is stretched,” says Dr Alan Matarasso, a plastic surgeon in New York City. Stimulate the outer sides of her breasts, just below the armpits, with your tongue or fingertips. Make flipping motions with your tongue and even experiment with light nibbling.
Sometimes not being able to reach things has its advantages.
1. You always get to be in the front row of group photos. You’re the star of every girls’ night out selfie and/or field hockey team picture. And if you decide you don’t want to be seen, just sneak in the back row and use a tall person as a shield. You can never lose.
2. People card you all the time, because you’re approximately the same height as a middle-schooler. Nothing will ever boost your self-esteem quite like a movie theater employee checking to make sure you’re old enough to see Bridesmaids without an accompanying adult.
3. You’re pretty much MacGyver when it comes to getting stuff on high shelves. Sure, you could ask for help or use a ladder, but where’s the fun in that? You have an entire strategy for getting your favorite kind of pasta off the tallest shelf in the grocery store. It involves an umbrella, a well-timed jump, and cat-like reflexes.
4. You can wear super-high heels without getting self-conscious that you’re too tall. Now you’re just the same height as everybody else. I can see for miles from up here!
It’s one of the biggest clichés of all time: “I want us to still be friends.”
From statements of celebrity splits to impromptu break-up texts, to speeches in front of middle-school lockers, there is a notion in our culture that breakups should be sweet and amicable. It’s often assumed that the best way to end a romantic relationship is to magically embark on a close, happy, friendship — where everyone is thrilled, and both parties smilingly tease each other about his video-game habits or her fondness for vintage brooches.
But does this fantasy ever work out, and is it even wise to try for it? Can you really be friends with someone you dated — even if he knows you better than anyone else? Do any great — or even average — romances ever end by segueing into a strong friendship?
The answer, many times, is no. Sometimes, of course, it can happen — with time. But certain conditions must be met. Here are six signs that should tell you that “Let’s just be friends” may not be your best option (as discussed in detail in The Friendship Fix):
Posted in Break Up, Dating, Friendship, Men, Psychology, Relationships, Women
Tagged break-up, ex-boyfriend, Friendship, platonic relationship, relationship
Is bigger always better, even when they’re fake?
She says: Hell no. It’s not worth the money, the trouble or the risks
Just the other day I was having a conversation with a friend about the pros and cons of getting your boobs done, the essence of which can be traced back to a few choice words: “expensive”, “implant rupture” and “Wonderbra”. I’m a lass with boobs that sit (rather pertly) at the smaller end of the size scale, and I’ve certainly pondered the benefits of making them bigger. But for me, it’s just not worth the cost, the risks and how the surgery can negatively impact your life.
First, they’re fake and they’re expensive. Just like heading to Thailand to buy a fake Louis Vuitton handbag, you still come back with a lighter wallet and fake goods. And from some male perspectives, fake boobs don’t even feel like the real deal.
Second, there’s the risk of cancer – not from the implants themselves but from the risk that they can obstruct the view of a tumour during a mammogram. There’s also the risk of something going wrong during surgery (certainly low by all accounts, but a risk nonetheless). And then there’s the risk of not liking the damn things once they’ve been done.
Posted in Cosmetic & beauty, Health & Wellbeing, Lifestyle, Men, Sex, Single Ladies, Women
Tagged boob job, breast augmentation, breast implant, cosmetic surgery, fake boobs
DOES more sex make for a happier relationship? Here we look at whether quality triumphs quantity.
The chances are that if you’re having sex regularly, you’ll be pretty pleased with your relationship. If you’re getting more nooky than the people around you – or you think you are – you’ll be even happier. A new study has found we don’t just want to keep up with the Joneses and have a bigger house, a faster car, or a better body. We want to be more successful in the bedroom, too.
It’s true that in the complicated and convoluted world of sex, myths will always abound. But a slew of research has disproved some beliefs, mostly based on long-held, gender-based stereotypes. It seems, contrary to what pop psychology books and magazine covers would have you believe, women are not from Venus, nor are men from Mars. Herein we dispel these and other commonly held sex myths.
1. Men are more interested in casual sex than women
FALSE: Despite what sitcoms since the 1970s would have us believe, men are not all out to spread their seed on endless one-night stands. Professor Terri Conley from the University of Michigan recently reviewed an oft-cited 1989 study which supported the theory that men are more interested in casual sex. In that study researchers trained young men and women to proposition strangers for sex.